What Defines Me

This past week, I had the opportunity to meet with my new principal. As I sat down, she said, “Tell me about yourself.” The first thing I said was, “I’m sure you have heard…” and proceeded to tell her about Shawn and how I ended up in Green Bay. I find myself doing this often as I meet new people. I had previously written that I do not want Shawn to be defined by his death, and yet I often let it define me. Shawn’s death is a huge part of my life. It has changed me; it has altered my future, but it does not define me.

Next time someone asks me who I am, I will share this:

I am a daughter. I am a granddaughter. I am a sister. I am an aunt. I am a niece. I am a friend. I am a dog mom. I am a Speech-Language Pathologist.

I am strong.

I am hopeful.

I am kind.

I am compassionate.

I am courageous.

I am a survivor.

Shawn’s death does not define me. I define me.



8 thoughts on “What Defines Me

  1. Sheri says:

    Lindsay Judith, once again your powerful, thought provoking, honest simplicity simply blows my mind! You are truly an inspiration to all and as always I am so proud to be your (favorite) aunt.


    • mysavinggracie says:

      Thanks so much for this encouraging message! 🙂 This was written after a Packer tailgating day followed by a nap. I am lucky it makes sense at all. I am so happy to be your niece! Love you (favorite) aunt Sheri! 🙂


  2. Allan & Jane Lorge says:

    Our immediate response after reading was WOW!!…..what an strong and truly amazing young lady…..so proud of you and love you much!


    • mysavinggracie says:

      Thank you and thank you for the card you sent too. That was so nice of you. Those encouraging and thoughtful notes mean so much and truly help me on the days I’m not feeling very strong or courageous. Love to you too! ❤️


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